Meant for someone greater.

So my friend and I were chatting about a trending topic on some joke site everyone is addicted in (you all know what it is lol). Here’s a picture my friend shared with me:

HAH! .. okay, fine. Let’s talk about it. (For the record I did laugh my ass off at the sight of this)

It sucks, being “friend-zoned.” If it didn’t, it wouldn’t have thousands of various comic art put up in sites like 9gag about people whining on how sucky it is to be dumped in such a social zone. From what I heard, it’s where a person’s affections and dreams go to die; where the ‘dreamed of’ dumps the ‘dreamer’ to be fed to the wolves commonly characterized by self pity and loathe. Lol.

Let’s do some leveling first so you’d have a picture of the girl you’re about to get opinions from. I’m a girl who dates (dated?). But never have I thought of dating long time friends or men I genuinely want to be friends with for long. I have this fear that if I allow myself a tinge of attraction for a man I stamped “FRIEND” with on his forehead, things will get complicated and eventually turn sour.

Attraction complicates ANY friendship. And if the friendship is not strong enough to brave through complications, your ship is bound to sink in the abyss, never to be retrieved again. For such a risk of a ship wreck, only a few hearts can survive from. FYI, there IS such a thing as genuine friendship — the kind worth protecting from dramatic fuss.

When you are friend-zoned, it doesn’t mean you’re invisible or you lack value to the person. It only means the person wants you to be part of his or her life for a much longer time than you perceive now. It means that if something goes wrong between you two just because of a mere slush of attraction, it would be more than they can bear if they were to lose you for real. It’s either that, or you’re most likely meant for someone greater.

It’s a matter of perspective — or your hallucinogen of choice. Lol.

Salamat Po!

Having no subjects this semester has by far been a package of sorts for me. When I don’t have work (yes, I now have a part-time job in the university), I have time for my thesis, for my friends, for my books, and for my own personal musings. The cherry on top of all this is my recent discovery of a cafe in campus that is somewhat secluded from daily student traffic, has a beautiful outside porch, and is perfect for some quiet time to do what I need to do for the day. Needless to say I am currently in that cafe, rain pouring heavily outside, as I write these down…

“Hey Jude, don’t make it bad.

Take a sad song and make it better.”

I believe God sends us people for reasons as unique as those he sends. Unprecedented, some will hurt and empty you out; others will stay and accept you for who you are and whoever you choose to be; and some others are meant to give you a renewed appreciation for your life. For whatever purpose every person who enters in your life has, the point is you learn a little more about yourself and the world every single time. The hurtful will teach you courage and strength; the accepting will show you unconditional love; and the others will bring you profound joy.

Jude’s flight out is looming in — and it’s looming in fast. I suppose now’s the perfect time to go through every memory we have with a grateful heart. People ask me if I’m sad about it. Frankly, Jude never gave me any reason to be sad. He made sure to always make me smile, and even now that he’s far off in another part of the country, the thought of him still makes me laugh ALL the time. We got to meet, we became friends, we joked about Canadians, I introduced to him Adele and he made me listen to Portugal the Man, he made sure that I didn’t drink too much whenever we were out, and he sang “Hey Jude” to me that one time I was crying my eyes out in a college bar.

Yo polar bear. lol.

So, no. I am not sad. If anything, I am more than happy to have been reminded by someone like him that life is GOOD in spite of little road blocks along the way. I am more than happy with the fact that in spite our geographical locations in the world, we met here at this point in time. I owe it to him to always make it happy (his version of the Beatles lyrics lol).

“Keep your chin up, girl,” as he would say. Life is good, always is. So yeah, ’til we meet again Jude! See ya. *wink*

“And any time you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain,

Don’t carry the world upon your shoulders.

Well you know that it’s a fool who plays it cool

by making his world a little colder.”

– Hey Jude by the Beatles

P.S. Sky outside is slowly clearing up.